Pain is the residue of experiences not authored by love. And these kind of experiences—outside of our control or inflicted by people without our best interest in mind—are universal and inevitable.
Some of us were taken advantage of as kids or severely rejected. Others acquired pain as they spent their childhood and young adult lives trying to architect themselves into the person their parents or peers wanted them to be. Some experienced traumatic accidents or deaths in the family. Others have unbalanced chemicals in their bodies, which added a layer of confusion and loneliness to even the happiest of times.
We spend a lot of time and energy avoiding pain. Read more on this article from Relevant Magazine.